All I want is to be vulnerable on the internet without having to make a career out of being vulnerable on the internet.
Anonymous said: Why write about it then?
Why all the pearls? Why all the hair? Why anything?
I dug my 6th grade yearbook out of the back of my parents’ garage this weekend. How cute is this picture?
I do believe that if you’re doing any kind of creative or analytical work you ought to bring everything to the table - everything you’ve ever felt or known or experienced or heard. You should be a good listener and then when it’s time to work out what you’ve heard there shouldn’t be anything that’s off limits.
However, the inverse of this isn’t true at all. You shouldn’t view the people and stories around you with the narrow eye of how they’ll fit into your work. It breeds the kind of impatience that seems rampant amongst academics and old-school media writers who never made peace with the pace of the internet. Erin and I were talking about this the other day and she said “There’s a violence in viewing people with that kind of utility in mind” and she’s right. She usually is.
I mean can’t we agree that for the most part internet misandry is just a way for straight girls to leverage heterosexual privilege it certainly feels that way to me.
Like I’m sorry if rape survivors are distracting you from your super important political work of writing about Lady Gaga and Dude Where’s My Car but I don’t think they are?
UGH THAT HALBERSTAM BLOG POST ABOUT TRIGGER WARNINGS
Is actually the worst. First of all, to suggest that just because I’m a dyke I can co-opt transmisogynist language and “reclaim” something that has never been used against meis just so wrong on a very basic level.
Trigger warnings are not censorship. No one is asking anyone to take anything off their syllabi. Survivors are simply asking to be able to approach art and information from a place of agency. Safety is not the opposite of risk-taking. And if people are asking for things that make them feel safer, why are academics so angry about that?
The one thing about that article I agree with - being queer isn’t necessarily hard. I’ve never been assaulted or threatened or raped or abused but that doesn’t mean I can’t extend a basic level of sympathy to those who have. I would always rather ere on the side of being inclusive and sensitive and I don’t feel like anything important I’ve ever had to say has been threatened by that impulse.
I can’t really ever do anything unless I’m very bored for a very long time before I do it.
Diane Lane photographed by Andy Warhol, 1984.
Look at this dog on my bed.
"It’s ok to be bored and annoyed and sick inside. Put it somewhere. Write something freakishly mean and scathing and gloriously self-aware and self-abnegating and grandiose and sad. Create something soaring and melancholy and frustrating. You are full of so many charged, combustible thoughts and feelings. You are full and rich and alive and you deserve to feel what you feel and be who you are. Celebrate the nasty. Lean in, Nasty Girl. Lean the fuck in and be nasty. Not callous. Not withdrawn. Not punishing. Not escaping. Not self-destructing. Engaged and furious and generous and heartbroken and glorious and nasty, nasty, nasty." - OMG
Larry King rocking that double Cartier LOVE bracelet!